Now that the holidays are looming in the horizon, and the probability of having family gatherings is more likely, relatives should be particularly aware of their behavior around children of divorcing parents.
Here is my list of the top 10 ways to help grandchildren, nieces, nephews, cousins and other kids experiencing divorcing parents through the holidays:
1. Don't disparage your soon-to-be ex-relative in front of the children.
2. Help create positive memories during holiday events and keep up on traditions.
3. Be a good listener.
4. Set up your expectations for their behavior before they arrive.
5. Become the unbiased, non-judgment confidant.
6. Don't sabotage agreements set up by either parent.
7. Let your relative little ones know that what they are feeling is okay.
8. Focus on the positive.
9. Share your spiritual beliefs in a non-judgmental way.
10. Read together and/or find quiet special time with them.
What other rules do you observe? Email me at jjaskolka@sullivan-ward.com
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Jennifer Jaskolka-Brown, an Iowa attorney located at 6601 Westown Parkway, Suite 200, West Des Moines, Iowa, (515) 247-4705, practices in general civil litigation with an emphasis in Iowa Family Law issues. She provides guidance in family law matters from divorce, paternity, disestablishment of paternity to adoption,and guardianships. She also provides representation in a wide-variety of civil litigation issues.
